The Holidays are coming into full swing. This time of year is full of miracles, cheer, love and joy. Traditions are upheld, and new ones are made. Family draws near, and peace and goodwill come to the fore. There are so many more wonderful things brought about by the holidays, too many to mention all.
Excepting the unpredictable weather, it’s probably my favorite time of the year. Really…
Some years the Holidays can feel downright amazing! But for me, every once in a while, and for many others in – varying in degrees of time and intensity – it can be one of the most difficult, even painful times.
No need to smother your grieving friend.. Your continued support and presence is likely enough. Knowing you remember us and are there is a real gift in itself.
But please be mindful in your encouragement. Hearing things like “buck it up, let it go & celebrate” or “you really need to try to be happy this time of year” do not come off as helpful or well meaning. They are hurtful and insensitive.
While you’re looking forward to and celebrating all the get togethers, good food, and presents we remember past celebrations with loved ones and how it will never be the same, not this year or next.
We miss our love one’s presence, and what the holiday could have been with them. We feel it very keenly.
And though through time it will likely get easier, it never fully goes away. We are never fully healed. It’s just a part of who we are, who we will always now be.
Again, just continue to love us. To be our friend. To be there when we need. To celebrate amazing moments with us. Take joy in the new memories you help us make. Living life with us, lifting us up in the moments we feel little less than alive is a gift beyond measure…
Of Loss and Love 